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Lesson 3 - Self defense mental preparation
Nobody explains how to train the mind
One of the least treated (and probably among the most fundamental) aspects of self-defense is mental preparation for the high stress involved in undergoing (or the risk of suffering) an aggression.
It does not matter whether it is a situation that can be resolved by a flee, physical struggle or negotiation: if you are not psychologically ready to concentrate and accept the scenario you are facing (read Self-defense: aggression in front of a supermarket) you will never be able to put your knowledge on the subject (read Lesson 1).
As we have already mentioned, in normal self-defense courses (at best) it is simply repeated over and over again that the psychological level is not to be underestimated but very few explain how to prepare the mind to face the obstacle. This guide, without any pretension of completeness or of providing miraculous recipes, tries to give answers to this widespread lack.
What we need (mentally)
Reconnecting with what was said in the previous lesson (read Lesson 2), in a self-defense situation we need to:
Accept the situation (discipline) ? Eliminate doubts and act with courage, determination and consistently, guiding the instinct through reason (read Concentration: reason and instinct)
Having the right patterns in the head (preparation) ? Thinking of sketching a self-defense strategy (from scratch) in the exact moment in which we risk to suffer an aggression means to drastically reduce our possibilities
Lucidity to adapt the schemes to the scenario (concentration) ? Knowing the best defensive patterns is useless if we do not possess the lucidity to carry out a quick and consistent reasoning
A note by Master Kongling ? In every teaching related to the 6 Dragons Kung Fu we always return to this triple key of reading: discipline, preparation and concentration.
If on one hand (almost) all serious martial arts practitioners understand that:
To have good physical performances you need to train
To learn how to apply a technique it is necessary to study it in depth
Only a few can accept the effort of having to study and train even for what concerns the mental aspects.
The problem is that, in a civil context, most of the self-defense instructors (in this case through no fault of their own) have not been trained in this kind of approach and themselves if / when called to face critical situations often react in the wrong way:
With too sharp tools (eg. finger in the eyes screaming the name of their martial art)
With too mild methods (eg. deluding themselves of applying didactical control techniques)
More simply (and commonly) going into a total panic (read Always be ready to fight: the mind)
A note by Master Kongling ? I?ve been there too. All this should not surprise you: as it is normal that those who are not trained to kick will lose the balance in doing it (read Kick without losing balance: another trick) is similarly normal that those without psychological education, react with their personal instinctive nature. I remember for example a boy with a statuesque body and a huge force (forged in hours and hours of Crossfit training) immobilized in front of a snatch (against a close relative) and perpetrated by an old unarmed lame man; those present urged him to do something but nothing? he could have chased him for hours without losing even a drop of sweat, he could have grabbed him by the arm and nothing would have freed him. Nothing.
In our days, from a strictly psychological point of view is true that, the typical gym martial training, allows you to better deal with the situations of daily life (work, sociality, etc.) but only because (mentally) it require less effort (if compared to the necessary discipline of a real daily workout). In themselves, martial arts do not teach you at all how to manage the most (emotionally) extreme situations (aggressions, etc.).
Only those who have already had practical experience of violence know what it means:
People grew up in contexts where violence is the order of the day
Suburban areas characterized by social degradation
Isolated areas where the law does not arrive
Eternal war zones
How to prepare the mind for personal defense
Who trains in martial arts day by day, seriously and with humility knows how difficult it is to achieve satisfactory results on the physical plane and, for what concerns the mental plane, it?s the same thing: you need a lot of quality practice.
So let?s see how to train and educate your mind to the psychological stress of self-defense:
Controlling the mind ? The maximum aspiration of a Shaolin monk is to empty his mind (read Become the absolute zero); the ability to choose what kind of emotions / feelings is the maximum mental ability of both a fighter and a negotiator;
Use the anchors ? Recalling emotions from the past and bringing them back to mind to identify you with the right frame of mind for the present scenario is a winning technique but it must be done properly (read Fighting and mind control: the anchors); emotions have an incredible power and we can use it each time we need (read How to use emotions in workout and combat)
Preparing a plan ? As we said good plans and good decisions about what to do (what not and how) in a critical context must be ponderated in moments of tranquillity and never in circumstances of danger, tension and / or prejudice s(read The 6DKF?s diagram about the use of violence); in addition to good action plans you have to take your time to choose what is really important for you (life, friends, etc.) and what can be easily replaced / lost / ignored / recovered (money, pride, etc.)
Accepting pain ? Pain is only a sensation, the philosopher Epicurus said that if it is too strong it lasts a little, if not you can bear it (we could discuss aloud on these statements but what interests us is the point of view, the concept that suffering, have fear or focus on pain is useless and counterproductive); for those who are not used to it, the first real problem is the fear of pain and not so much its effective neural signal; if it is true that we all have a different sensitivity / tolerance to pain it is equally true that we can all raise the threshold of tolerance (both physically, both and especially mentally, read Acceptance and prevention of pain)
Understand fear ? We are all afraid (victims and aggressors), is an automatic mechanism for the preservation of most living beings; you must learn not to reject it but to accept it as a ?neutral signal? which, in itself, is devoid of positive or negative meaning and which must not alter your perception / interaction with the world; to learn how to manage fear you must gradually face all that scares you, day by day, starting from the smallest and insignificant things (eg. small superstitions), up to the most incisive ones (eg. big traumas, more about this later); do not skip this step, whether you think you can not do it or that you do not need it, in both cases you?re lying to yourself (read Having discipline: do not contradict ourselves), you must learn to leave your comfort zone
Do (useful) simulations ? A good way to get used to deal with critical situations is to refine your skills in simulative contexts (gradually less predictable, less balanced, less schematic and especially less collaborative, more about this later); the simulations of operational scenarios (outdoors or indoors, with or without sparring) are very useful but only if those who train with you do not behave in a didactic, lazy and consenting way; after a certain level, the simulation makes sense only if (given rules and safety limits to be respected) you come to a point that you entirely do not know what kind of aggression you will suffer (with weapons, multiple, robbery, etc.)
A note by Master Kongling ? Regarding the simulations, it is important to stress that they must not forcibly have a happy ending (only defeat teaches something, read Measure ourselves with errors). I remember a wonderful initiative that was attended by a friend of mine (a Ninjutsu practitioner) where an assault and a defense from a night siege was simulated through a building near a bush (2 teams of about 15 people). Naturally, this kind of initiative must be adequately prepared (people, places, training, etc.) but to make simpler simulations, any training area is sufficient (read The most suitable places to train).
How to repel an attack in 6DKF: instinct and reason ? An example of the interaction of instinct and reason during combat
12 Things That change for 6DKF?s practitioners (mental) ? A list of mental changes that 6 Dragons Kung Fu?s practitioners feel